Foster Care Collective — Elevate Voices. Ignite Change.

Foster Care Collective — Elevate Voices. Ignite Change.

A lived experience collective for people impacted by foster care and adoption gathered for public awareness and long term systemic change.

Lived experience is expertise

Why this collective exists

"Voices shaped by foster care and adoption belong in public view, not in the shadows."

The Foster Care Collective is a public-facing space for people whose lives have been shaped by foster care, adoption, and kinship care.

It is not an agency, nonprofit arm, professional association, or political group. It is a place for lived experience, thoughtful dialogue, and systems-aware reflection.

Too often, foster care is discussed without meaningful participation from the people who have lived inside it. This collective exists to bring those voices closer to the center of the conversation.

We gather to make lived experience more visible, encourage thoughtful public discussion, and support long-term systems change grounded in dignity & honesty.

The founders

Beth LaFontaine

Beth LaFontaine

Co-founder

Beth understands that poor care in foster care does not end when childhood ends. It can leave consequences that follow a person for decades.

She knows this personally. Growing up in foster care and being adopted at nine shaped her understanding of grief, identity, attachment, belonging, and care. It also affected her emotionally and physically in ways she still carries.

As a licensed clinical social worker, she also understands the weight carried by caregivers and professionals trying to support children inside complex systems.

She helped create the Foster Care Collective because she believes we need more honest conversations about what foster care really asks of children, families, and the people who serve them. Her hope is to help advocate for meaningful change so children and caregivers today do not have to keep suffering long after the system has moved on.

Steve Gonyea

Steve Gonyea

Co-founder

Steve has spent decades connected to foster care as a foster parent, adoptive father, and advocate. Through those experiences, he has seen both the humanity inside the system and the ways children and families are often misunderstood or unsupported.

His perspective has also been shaped by raising and advocating for children with autism within foster care, where communication differences and developmental needs can easily be overlooked inside already strained systems.

He helped create the Foster Care Collective because he believes people connected to foster care should have a place to speak honestly, share perspectives, and contribute to conversations about change.

For Steve, this work is about helping children, caregivers, and families feel more understood and less alone inside the system.

The Charter

What holds this space together

A small set of principles we return to. Less a rulebook than a shared sense of how we'd like to be with each other.

Core principles
  1. Lived experience matters

    People shaped by foster care, adoption, caregiving, and the child welfare system carry knowledge that should inform public conversation and change.

  2. Truth without spectacle

    This space welcomes honest accounts of foster care without turning pain into performance or softening reality to protect institutions.

  3. Respect for different paths

    There is no single foster care story. Some people carry grief. Some carry love. Many carry both. No one's experience should be used to measure another person's.

  4. Voice with care

    Speak from your own experience. Leave room for what others know, remember, or are still trying to understand.

  5. Advocacy with purpose

    The goal is not personal platform-building. The goal is better public awareness and more thoughtful change for foster youth, families, caregivers, and the people working within these systems.

How we participate
  • Share, listen, show up, help with media or outreach, organize, advocate, or simply be present. There is no single way to take part.
  • Speak from your own experience. Respect privacy, consent, and honest disagreement.
  • This space welcomes people connected to foster care from different roles and different points on their path.
What we ask of each other

Avoid overpromotion, recruiting, or collecting others' experiences for outside projects.

Recognize that titles and roles in foster care carry pain, power imbalance, and history — but do not reduce people to those roles.

Caseworkers, caregivers, parents, advocates, professionals, and people with lived experience can all be impacted by the system.

The goal is to protect room for many voices and build fuller context for meaningful change.

Who this centers

People whose lives have been shaped from the inside.

  • Former foster youth and care-experienced adults
  • Adoptees across all forms of adoption
  • Biological parents and kinship caregivers
  • People whose health, disability, or neurodivergent realities have been shaped by these systems
What this is not
  • Crisis peer support
  • Therapy or a clinical service
  • Case help or legal advice
  • A networking platform or marketplace
  • A venue for brand-building
Privacy, consent, and public voice

No one owes their story.

What you share belongs to you. Nothing is recorded, repurposed, or quoted without your consent. Some of what we do is public-facing by design, and the choice to step into that visibility is always yours, and always revocable.

Speaking from your experience never requires speaking for anyone else's.

Next gathering

First Introductory Gathering

Date
Wednesday, June 17
Time
7:00 PM Eastern
Where
via Zoom

The Zoom link will be sent to the email address you provide in the Stay Connected form below.

Stay connected

If you'd like to stay close to this conversation, leave a short note below. Your message goes directly to the founders — no account, no newsletter list, no third party in the middle.

Your information stays with the collective. No newsletters, no third-party sharing, no automated list — just a private note to the founders.